princessj

Joined: 17 Jul 2006 Posts: 1070 Location: The Imperial Palace
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Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 7:02 pm Post subject: |
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My parents ( my Father in particular) damaged me with their oppressive back-wards way of life so badly that I still question my own actions to this day. I had to move out of their house because it was just to irrational and tense a situation for myself. They never physically abused me, but the emotional anguish my Father put me through for simple things like music, clothes, and free-will was brutal. Since I've had my own place though our relationship is definitely improving...I think realizes I am an adult finally.
Anyway Haitian parents are unrealistic in believing their children will inherently echo the beliefs passed down to them. We are not drones but living breathing people with our individual thought processes, ways of life, and systems of believe. The experiences we've lived through have created us not our parents. They gifted us with the physical body but our life-force is our own. We create our own karma...and part of that is how we live our lives. No one should dictate nor expect others to fall in line to their way of thinking.
As to the second part of DJKreyol's question, coming from a very religious family their primary concern has always been if the man in question was the follower of the Pentecostal faith...that and the bonus of being Haitian from a good family. But my parents would prefer me marry a nonHaitian man who is in the same faith as I to a Haitian man who isn't.
I personally would like to believe I am open to everyone...I actually go through phases where all I want is a Haitian man, then just rather be with Cubans (my favorite Hispanic culture), and once in a while Caucasian (Italians, French...European male not the typical USA) guys. I almost am rarely attracted to African American men, I'm not exactly sure why, if it's to disassociate with that culture and stand separate in my Afro-Latin identity or what but it took me a while to come to acknowledge that prejudice (and I do call it such) on my part.
But then again, if you are handsome with a sense of humor and career oriented I generally don't mind sharing a meal and a laugh...but when it comes to committing I get issues, like I know I'm SUPPOSE to marry Haitian, but I'm attracted to so many different types of men! Ah man...help me out here ladies!?! _________________
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