ENTRY #6: IF YOU WANT CLOSURE IN UR RELATIONSHIP....

[DJ Kreyol]

If You Want Closure in Your Relationship..Start with Your Legs.

I mean HOW SIMPLE can I explain it.

People you can't TRY to END a relationship and CONTINUE to have sex with your ex.

I mean, what is WRONG with you.

Does anybody agree?

Have any stories?

What add another relevant advice.
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[jeanVALjean]

Makes perfect sense to me!

Often, at least one of the parties doesn't really wanna rid the other person out of his or her life and sex is used as leverage...

Let's keep it real though, sometimes it's just as simple as sex with that person being the freaking bomb and that will not be negotiated!
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[daphnee]

yeah sex plays a major part for some...but what about those whose relationship was more than sex. Sex doesn't define a relationship. Closure doesn't have anything to do with sex, especially if your emotions were involved!!!!
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[kompekok]

[daphnee]

[princessj]

Well in theory this would be a good rule to adhere to DJK, but...some people use sex as a tool. For instance I have not one, but two girlfriends of mine who've continued to sleep with their exes. One with the hope that the physical connection will eventually translate to a relationship, the other because he's her "Baby Daddy" and "If [she's] going to get it on with anyone, it might as well be him."

Now my logic tells me, if sex during the relationship couldn't keep them from breaking up, why should no-strings-attached sex bring them back together? I think people who allow themselves to be treated that way fall into three categories:

1. A Go Getter: Someone who's just free with him/herself and realize I want nothing more but the sex and I can walk away whenever. So why not get it on with Mr./Ms. Right Now, until Mr./Ms. Right comes along. That's the I'ma go git mine attitude, unfortunately this is rarely the case for most females.

2. Hopeful Romantic: Someone who desperate hopes and prays he/she can somehow recapture the magic although it done died the minute they demeaned themselves into that very situation which equates to "I don't deserve better." Sadly people who are in this category only lower their value in the eyes of the very person they seek to woo.

3. Owned Addict: Someone who is so damn sprung on that good stuff that she/he simply won't walk away. Even though he/she understands there's no hope of anything more fulfilling springing from the sexual relationship, but it's just that damn good...so "just one more time" ends up being a year long booty-call.
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[SIROMYEL]

good advice djk....


so much easier said than done.

let's face it...most of us continue sleeping with their exes for as long as a year after the official break up.

Sometimes this goes on even into the first couple fo months into their next relationship.

It's jnust hte norm...especially if it wasn't a bad break up.